Vaguebooking, Drama Queens, & Attention Seekers

Last night I was on one of the message board I go to, and someone mentioned the term vaguebooking (on facebook). Having never heard that word before, I did a little google search. According to most of the urban dictionary definitions and blog posts from around the world, vaguebooking means  when someone leaves a vague status message on their facebook to which most people don’t know what they are talking about, creating an element of mystery and prompting friends to wonder and ask what’s going on. Example: “How can someone be so heartless?” Most of you can right now either recall a number of irritating posts made by your friends, or recall that you have been guilty of this yourself.

I’m not going to lie that I have done this a few times (few, meaning less than what I can count on my hands) back when myspace was cooler than facebook, but I quickly ordered myself to knock it off after I saw friends making nearly the same posts and finding myself laughing at how attention desperate they were being. Now I hate myself for doing that, ever. Ick. But attention seeking is exactly what it is. And what pisses me off more than anything is that with many of the offenders, when you ask them what’s wrong, they will say they can’t talk about it or they complain about people getting into their business. Wtf? If you can’t talk about it or don’t want people to ask you about it, then don’t post it. At all! Don’t even hint about it. You cannot post hints about something and then demand your personal life to be kept private because that is so hypocritical.

These people are often the drama queens in real life too. They always seem to be arguing with someone, or in some sort of crisis at all times, and then they see facebook as a perfect opportunity to maximize on the drama and attention they need. I’ve seen arguments within statuses and comments about pretty much everything personal you can think of, when they could have been sending the messages privately, they chose to make it public. It’s pretty ridiculous.  I’m so sick of it, and this is why I have a love/hate relationship with facebook, because I can’t stand the drama and the attention pleas, and many times the friends of theirs who enable their bull too.

“I’m going to delete my facebook forever!” (Yeah, until tomorrow)

“I hate men! I’m done with them.” No, you’re not. Two hours laters “I luuuuv my bf 4eva!” (God shut up!)

Single, in a relationship, single, engaged, married, single…from one person all in one week…is just fucking stupid. Just pick one and keep it there.

The fighting within status messages…just text them privately please.

…… If you are under 18, this behavior is expected in my opinion. But if you are older than that, it’s unacceptable.

And many people say,” Just hide that person.” Well that’s a good point. Yeah I can, and I probably will. But if I have to hide someone from seeing their updates, it’s because they are being god damned annoying, and they need to stop. It takes a lot for me to be annoyed by people, and even more for me to say something about it. The point is, why should I have to hide them from my news feed? No one should be made to feel annoyed enough to have to hide a that person. People need to just stop  living their roller coaster soap opera through facebook. That is all.

Opinions are welcome, as always.

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6 thoughts on “Vaguebooking, Drama Queens, & Attention Seekers

  1. it sounds to me as if these Vaguebookers or Vagueseekers if you will are doing nothing more then searching for attention as you stated. i have many friend like this and they constantly pollute the internet airwaves with toxicity. stating things like “fuck my life…” constantly. i find it extremely interesting that it is these people that a majority of people respond to there cry for attention. there will be like 57 post under the comment it blows my mind!

    • Exactly! The “Fuck my life” posts are the worst. And if that isn’t bad enough, there are always tons of replies like “Aww what’s wrong?” and “Are you ok?” It makes me want to vomit how idiotic everyone is.

  2. Uh I know exactly what you are talking about. Most of them are desperate cries for sympathy from anyone they can manage to get it from.

  3. I think all members of social networking sites, such as Facebook/Myspace etc, can most definitely relate. ‘Vaguebookers’ are something I see regularly amongst my friends on Facebook. “You don’t want to make me angry, it’s not a pretty sight” instigates the responses “what’s wrong?” “is there anything I can do?” “I’ll knock them out” before any of the repliers have actually been told who the initial status/post is about.

    You see couples in relationships who put their entire relationship on statuses/posts – something, I believe, can be deadly for any relationship. You wouldn’t go to the local pub and tell everyone why or how you split up, your make up sex, then split up again would you? So why broadcast it on Facebook or any other public site!

    The only argument for this ‘vaguebooking’ is the common ‘well it’s my private page, I can write what I want’. Yes but there is a level of self-respect to not exploit your life onto a place where yes, there are friends on there, but also those old friends who you wouldn’t speak about such certain things with face to face. Does that make sense? Often I wonder is Facebook really necessary? But since being a student, I find it useful to contact family members and close friends whilst away. I’m torn!

    Great post, Ashley!

  4. I agree with some of the points you made here, but there is one questionable implication you’ve entertained throughout this post. Why do people on Facebook feel like they’re entitled to read posts from their friends that either have something to do with them, make them laugh, or cater to what they’re in the mood to read? What I mean when I say this is that I see people complaining about reading irritating status updates (whether vaguebooking or relationship-switching or whatever) AS IF their friends should only post things that appeal to them. It is YOUR newsfeed, but everything that shows up there (especially if from your friends) doesn’t have to please you because they’re their own person. You may always seek to remove these posts, but you shouldn’t simply expect them to be what you want to read just because they appear in your newsfeed. It’s equally as selfish for a friend to want others to stop posting what they want as it is for people to post things they want without regard to what might annoy people. This post just came across as a bit one-sided. On the one hand, I suppose this is expected BECAUSE it expresses the sentiments of the writer, but it also marginalizes the desires of those who DO these things, creating a type of propaganda. If you don’t like what they say, then as you mentioned in your post, “Just hide them,” but it may be largely hypocritical to expect them to not irritate you if you believe in things like free speech.

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