Be feminine or else you aren’t a real woman….or at least so suggests the quotes found over on Darling, a blog by a self described anti-feminist.
“Why do women want to dress like men when they’re fortunate enough to be women? Why lose femininity, which is one of our greatest charms? We get more accomplished by being charming than we would be flaunting around in pants and smoking. I’m very fond of men. I think they are wonderful creatures. I love them dearly. But I don’t want to look like one. When women gave up their long skirts, they made a grave error…”~Tasha Tudor
Did you hear that ladies? Skirts only! That is the only way women can be women and accomplish anything.
“It seems to be the fashion nowadays for a girl to behave as much like a man as possible. Well, I won’t! I’ll make the best of being a girl and be as nice a specimen as I can: sweet and modest, a dear, dainty thing with clothes smelling all sweet and violety, a soft voice, and pretty, womanly ways. Since I’m a girl, I prefer to be a real one!” ~ Mrs. George de Horne Vaizey
It’s a “fashion” for women to to behave like men? In other words, she’s accusing it of being a trend, as if masculine behaviors in women only exist because it’s cool, not because it’s how some women might actually feel more comfortable behaving like. Don’t question it, because as a supreme and delicate womanly specimen, her women’s intuition must be spot on.
Also, this lady needs to be corrected on something… Notice how she addresses men as “men” and women as “girls” 3 times in that quote. I have noticed this in a lot of anti-feminist language lately. It’s called infantilization: To treat or condescend to as if still a young child. It’s often the anti-feminist’s way of displaying superiority. She even refers to herself as a girl, even though she is a Mrs.
“Any woman who wishes to smash into the world of men isn’t very feminine.” ~Ida Lupino
“A girl should be two things: classy and fabulous.” ~Coco Chanel
When did everyone get the idea that they get to decide what women should be like, behave like, and look like? We grow up being told that men have certain qualities, characteristics, interests, capabilities, etc and that women have a different set of qualities, characteristics, interests, capabilities, etc. They will say it’s biology, but don’t let them fool you. They want women to be very limited in this existence and they will shame anyone who doesn’t fit that very small space.
Here’s what. If these women want to be delicate, pretty smelling flowers, good for them. I have no problem with that. They are free to be and do as they please, but so is everyone else. As for myself, I often enjoy being what society constitutes as feminine but I also possess traits that aren’t so feminine and I also enjoy those, as does many, many other women, and that is ok.
Wearing pants does not go against genetic code.
Any woman with a vagina is a real woman, no matter how she acts.
And as for you Coco Chanel, a woman should only be one thing: whatever the hell she wants to be.