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Stupid Things Men Do

Apr7

You knew it was coming. Here are some things that some men do that I personally just don’t understand.

Ogle underage girls.
A girl is walking and she is cat called. She has definitely developed, but she carries a Hello Kitty backpack and is still wearing braces. Doesn’t that indicate to you that she is still a child? Just wait until you have a teenage daughter, or try to hit on some 15 year old and get a bullet in your ass from her dad’s AK.

You think she won’t find out. (What you did last night, what you lied about, that you looked at porn on her computer even though you deleted the history, etc)
She will. Never underestimate a woman’s ability to find things out.

You like girl on girl action.
Why? I don’t get it. Chances are you aren’t going to be getting any.

You don’t understand when to back off sexually.
When we are sick or not feeling well, don’t say “I know what will make you feel better.” *wink* No. Here’s a magazine and some tissue and call me in the morning.

Going to strip clubs.
Why do you go to strip clubs, a place where you have to pay to see some (probably) average looking girl’s boobs when you have a good looking woman at home that you can see for free, plus more? I don’t get it.

You forget romance.
Sure you can pull out your smooth moves while trying to pursue us, but you think it’s ok to just throw that out the window 5 years down the road. If you hate romance, don’t be fake in the beginning. Oh and saying “I love you” every now and then doesn’t really count. See here.

When you get all upset and then say “I don’t give a F***”
Clearly you give at least something, otherwise you wouldn’t be fuming from your ears while you say it.

You eat a full meal in 5 minutes.
Do you chew your food at all? Did you even taste it? Men take 5 minutes to eat and 30 minutes evacuating it. What is up with that?

Thoughts?

Stupid Things Women Do

Apr6

There are lots of things people do that I will just never really understand. Let’s start with the ladies.

When you say, “I’m fine.”
There’s a chance you might mean this, but most of the time when a guy asks you this, you are not fine and you were made even more not fine because he had to ask you this instead of knowing what he did wrong. Just tell him what your problem is and don’t expect him to already know. You are just setting yourself up for more disappointment. Men have be often be told anything in very plain English.

“Does this make me look fat?”
Why? Why ask this? It makes you seem so insecure.

Go to the bathroom in groups.
The only time I have done this is at a crowded bar or club and feeling like parting ways with my group even for just a few seconds will leave me vulnerable to being approached by man I don’t want to talk to. It’s happened to me before and it can be nice to have your team help you keep them away. Otherwise, I don’t understand why women have to go together to check themselves out and go, “Omg did you see what she was wearing?” or “Ugh I look like shit.”

Wear heels every day.
I’ve seen this where women overdress on a daily basis. They wear heels at the most inappropriate times and they almost always looks ridiculous. If you are going grocery shopping, you don’t have to pretend you are going to be walking the red carpet. We all know you are dying to get back into your sweat pants so don’t pretend like you are glamorous because you don’t fool anyone.

Continue to declare your love for your boyfriend in facebook statuses while none of his statuses are about you.
I see this all time. Everyday it’s “I love so and so forever!” or “Can’t wait to be Mrs. So and So” and you go over to his profile and his updates are “Gotta love those Giants” or “Goin to Bubba’s Bar after the game. Txt me.” You wouldn’t guess he was in a relationship with Miss Clingypants. In fact if you didn’t know any better, you’d assume he was single.

Try to change your boyfriend.
It’s like you take the first guy that bats his eyelashes at you. You think he’s cute enough but he’s got no job, has a drug or anger problem, and plays video games 24-7 and you think that he is magically going to change all this for you. He might change his underwear a few times through your relationship, maybe, but that’s all he’s going to change.

Dieting.
You obsess over ever calorie, torture, and deprive yourself. You go back and forth between that and saying “F___ how society wants me to look, I’m going to mow down on this cake!” Then you pretend your diet really starts tomorrow. Mmmkay.

Excessive contact with boyfriend.
Of course you love him, but why is it that after your evening with him, you text him before he even gets back home with how much you miss him and have a text session unless you fall asleep with the phone in your hand. Can you not go half a day without contact? Or even a whole day? If not then that’s just stupid. Take a breather from him. Don’t make your world revolve around him. You have a life too, remember?

I’m sure there’s more, but these are the main ones. Thoughts?

My Worst Date Ever

Apr3

I was going to create a post about this on another site but I decided to make this a blog post instead.

My worst dating experience, I’m going to estimate the time to be around 2004. I met this guy in one of my classes and he added me to facebook back when facebook was still primarily college students from selected schools. He was only in my class for a short time until he transferred out, but we still talked online. He asked for my number and we started talking over the phone too. A few weeks progress and he seemed really into me, but I wasn’t too sure how into him I was. To be honest, his profile threw me off a bit with the hundreds of photos at parties and many of them with different girls hanging on him and pics with beer in his hands. I had my doubts but I tried to think, “Don’t judge a book by it’s cover.” He finally asked me out on an official date and I figured I could only give him a chance and see where it went. He said we’d probably go out to eat. That sounded good to me so I agreed to go out with him. That night he picks me up and we stop by his apartment which is on BSU campus first, I can’t exactly remember why. His roommate comes and and starts talking about some campus party that was supposed to be later that night. I assumed this would be after our date but then he asks me if I’d be up for going to this thing. I was like, um hmmm, suuure why not, actually thinking, “There’s a chance for this to be good or bad.” We hang out at his apartment for another half hour or so and then takes me through the McDonald’s drive thru….yeeeah I guess that was supposed to be dinner, and then we drive around town for a while. Meanwhile he’s going on and on talking about himself trying to make himself sound really cool, talking about all these trips he goes on, cars he has owned, parties he goes to, his frat buddies, blah blah. It all sounded really phony and cliche though. I mean how much money can a 21 year old college student have who works at the bookstore on campus that not his parents money?

We go back by his apartment again and then there are 4 other people there and I am hoping this “date” or whatever it was picks up for the better. They appoint a DD out of the group and we all end up piling into one car to go to this party, which turns out to be some girl I don’t know’s 19th birthday party. “Oh, goody!” There was a line to the door half way down the block where they were charging $5 for a refillable cup for the keg. I didn’t have any cash on me at the time and my guy didn’t even acknowledged to offer so I politely asked him and he panted like he was annoyed and like I was dumb for not having cash on me. “Sorry I didn’t know we were attending Buffie’s birthday kegger!” (I didn’t say that, but I was thinking that)

So we get in and there’s tons of people I don’t know which for an introvert like me, was uncomfortable for me to begin with. I know this might sound a little condescending but by that time I was already over the whole campus party scene with a bunch of underage binge drinking, just not for me. I would only want to attend if it was people close to me, otherwise I’d rather go to a bar. So anyway my guy doesn’t introduce me to a single person. I try to jump into some conversations with people who come up and talk to us, but my guy quickly forgets I am even there and starts going off doing his own thing. At this point I am thinking, “This is not a date at all.” When I hadn’t seen him in a while, I hear one of his friends say he took a few people to the liquor store because they wanted their own thing. He was gone for 30-45 mins.

He gets back and continues to act like he barely knows me so I just decide to forget him too. I started in on a game of beer pong and flippy cup and was terrible at it but at least it was entertaining for a little bit. Some time later I find him trying to dance up on this really drunk, overtanned, scantily clad girl that was gyrating like a stripper in the middle of the living room and I swear I could see drool coming down his face. I went over to him and said “When you find the strength to pry yourself from this skankaroo, I am ready to go.” He was like, “…are you mad at me?” I said, “Something like that.” A few minutes later we get back in the car and I ask him if he’s good to drive and he says yes but as we started driving I was a bit doubtful but we make it home safe and then in my driveway the weirdest thing happened. He suddenly lunges at me to hug me goodbye and tries to kiss me and I turn my head and he barely got my cheek. Then he says he’s sorry and reaches his hand back around my lower back and gives me a side hug and his hand grazed my butt and I was like “Ok! I gotta go, later!” wasn’t sure what had just happened but it just felt really messed up for him to suddenly try to touch on me after he had ignored me all night. I just didn’t get it. Was that a normal thing now?

Needless to say, I never spoke to him again and he never tried to contact me again either. I think he knows he made an ass out of himself. God that was the worst excuse for a “date” I have ever encountered. Maybe I should have trusted my instinct from the beginning.

Indonesian Politicians Call For Mini Skirts Ban For Provoking Rape

Apr2

Two separate Indonesian politicans have cited mini skirts as pornographic and called for them to be banned.

The first politician is Indonesia’s parliamentary speaker:

Earlier this month, the country’s parliamentary speaker Marzuki Alie announced he would draft rules banning female politicians and staff members from wearing mini skirts, saying, “there have been a lot of rape cases and other immoral acts recently and this is because women aren’t wearing appropriate clothes.”

“You know what men are like. Provocative clothing will make them do things.”

The second politician calling for a miniskirt ban is the religious affairs minister, and head of a new “anti-porn” taskforce:

Indonesia’s powerful religious affairs minister believes that mini-skirts are pornographic and should be banned under the country’s tough new anti-porn laws.  Minister Suryadharma Ali has been appointed to run Indonesia’s new anti-porn taskforce, announced by president Susilo Bambang Yudhoyono earlier this month.

He told reporters in Jakarta yesterday that before deciding what they must ban as pornography, the taskforce would consult widely to come up with “a set of universal criteria”.  However, “one [criterion] will be when someone wears a skirt above the knee,” according to the Jakarta Post.

Wow, mini skirts are pornographic and cause men to “do things”… like rape?  And this is “because women aren’t wearing appropriate clothes”?!  Talk about blaming the victim!

Reblogged from Lovelyish

The Ninja Troll: “You’re Chunky”

Mar22

There are some crazy people out there in the world that are trolling the internet. A troll came by this blog a couple weeks ago during my time away from the internet. I found a comment from them as soon as I checked my stats page and recent comments and I immediately deleted it. It was made by someone with a fake name and email. The name was a guy’s name but I suspected the comment had to be from a female because of the content of the comment,which included insulting a certain part of my body in a catty way that any straight male would just not do. I could have been wrong of course but I wasn’t betting on it. At the time I thought they had just made the comment here and that’s it, which isn’t totally unusual. I don’t really have much of a problem with trolls or haters on here, but an occasional snarky comment comes and goes. So I just deleted it and forgot about it.

What I didn’t know until several days later (about 4 days ago from today), was that after this person left the comment on a blog post, they also went to my flickr account and made more detailed attacks on about 10 of my photos. I didn’t know this right away because I don’t check my flickr stats and comments every day. I know it was the same person who commented on my blog post because post timing matched up pretty close together. These comments were probably typical for your average troll, but very new and hilarious to me personally. Apparently, she found my blog through a website that gives fashion tips for naturally thin women and in several comments she told me I looked “pretty chunky” in my photos, that I thought I was something special, etc. She went on and on insulting my appearance, but mainly kept trying to make me feel like I was this huge ugly fatass because she repeatedly said I wasn’t thin.  After reading these comments, I decided to shoot her a message on flickr saying how self loathing she must be to attack a stranger online like this. She replied to me with 3 different messages calling me another round of names, with emphasis again on how damn fat she thinks I am. I also noticed that the account she had on flickr was recently made had nothing on it so it was specifically made for attacking me.

THEN she deleted her flickr account before I  could reply, and this is where I came up with the term “ninja troll.”  They attack anonymously or with a fake alias and then run away so you can’t reply to them. Cute.

Ok so my thoughts are either she is trolling some BS insults to get a rise out of me, or she has a genuine body dysmorphic  problem for thinking someone like me is fat. My BMI has always been in the underweight category.   I am just wondering what would possess someone to see someone as  thin as I am, as chunky. It just blows my mind, unless she was just trying to get me to feel fat to bring me down, which brings me to another thought: Why are females so competitive and catty to each other? It’s like the only way they can feel better about themselves is if they bring someone else down. Apparently it really pisses other girls off when someone is happy with how they look, because they hate the way they look.

I don’t know. Either way, this troll is one for the books because I laughed so hard at this girl, whoever she was.

My Process

Mar21

I made a 2nd hooping video yesterday. Still out in the garage, only this time it was much warmer than last time. It has been quite warm here lately.

The great thing about hooping is that it’s hard enough to be challenging, but not too hard to where you start thinking you can’t do it and you give up. At least for me it’s just challenging enough, and it’s fun and very addicting. It’s like when I nail a trick, I celebrate in my head for a couple hours and then I feel an urge to move right on to the next one, and then the next one, etc. Then the next day I am sore in places I didn’t even know I could be sore in and I realized how much time I spent in that garage.

Ok so this video doesn’t demonstrate all of the things I have learned, just the ones I am comfortable with so far. There are several things I am working on. Also, I have compiled a playlist made specifically for hoop worthy songs, the kind that just have the beat or melody that goes well with hooping. Lots of  remixes, dubstep influence, and a few popular songs thrown in there too.

The term “love the process” refers to a video that internationally known hoop dancer Safire made as inspiration for new hoopers. Check that out here if you want.

Inspiring Words of Encouragement

Mar13

As I have posted about before, I have been sending out letters to friends and family asking for donation to help fund my entry fee into the Miss International 2012 pageant in July. Fortunately I have been able to receive help from very kind individuals and my sincere thanks goes out to those people. One of which was Miss Indiana USA 2008 and current international model, Brittany Mason.  Being the sweetie she is, she sent me a letter via facebook  along with her donation and her words were so warm and encouraging that I knew I had to share.

“When I first started pursuing my dreams my first idea was to compete in pageants because of all the opportunities that come with it. My family didn’t have any money to pay the entry fee let a lone buy a dress and all the other stuff that is needed. I was a teen and worked as much as possible for $5.15 an hour and went around to every business in my hometown asking for help, I came up with the entry fee and ended up wearing an old bridesmaid dress and swimsuit. Competing against girls that had thousand dollar dresses and spent hours and money on training, I ended up winning my first title….no dream is to big.

I know how hard it is to come up with the money to invest in the things you really want to do. I believe in perseverance and that all things are possible if you stay focused. I am a firm believer in your platform, 1 in 4 women have experienced violence…I hope you continue working with that with or without the crown.

I wish you the best of luck in the pursuit of the crown, but remember everything else you can gain from just competing. Keep me posted!

All the best,
Brittany Mason”

It is nice to hear personal stories like this knowing  that they have since succeeded in their lives. This immediately lifted my spirit and I want to give my sincere thanks to Brittany for her encouragement and donation.

Bad Humor

Mar11

Right before my little hiatus, I wanted to post something that someone on a forum made a thread about a little while back. These are tweets from women about Chris Brown that have seemed to spark a bit of controversy around the internet.

Ok so I understand these were meant to be funny, but these are just distasteful in every sense of the word. I type of humor is just awful. Maybe the fact that the issue of domestic violence hits home to me, but that aside, these puns aren’t even funny. What is up with this mentality anyway? Does Chris Brown’s looks make up for the fact that he beat the woman he claims to have loved? Does it excuse the fact that he still obviously has anger issues and temper tantrums 3 years later? This is definitely not a turn on for me, no matter how good looking a guy is.