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Still Loving You

August 7, 2010 Ashley Pariseau 6 comments

Time, it needs time to win back your love again
I will be there, I will be there
Love, only love can bring back your love someday
I will be there, I will be there

Fight, babe, I’ll fight to win back your love again
I will be there, I will be there
Love, only love can bring down the wall someday
I will be there, I will be there

If we go again all the way from the start
I would try to change the things that killed our love
Your pride has built a wall, so strong that I can’t get through
Is there really no chance to start once again? I’m loving you

Try, baby, try to trust in my love again
I will be there, I will be there
Love, our love just shouldn’t be thrown away
I will be there, I will be there

If we’d go again, all the way from the start
I would try to change the things that killed our love
Your pride has built a wall, so strong that I can’t get through
Is there really no chance to start once again?

If we’d go again, all the way from the start
I would try to change the things that killed our love
Yes, I’ve hurt your pride, and I know what you’ve been through
You should give me a chance, this can’t be the end

I’m still loving you
I’m still loving you
I’m still loving you
I need your love
I’m still loving you
Still loving you

Categories: Inspiration, Personal

Forgiveness

April 26, 2010 Ashley Pariseau 5 comments

“To err is human. To forgive is divine.

The path to forgiveness is often a long and difficult one, both for those who give it and those who seek it. There are no rules, no guidelines, no sliding scale.

You can’t look at a chart of errors and misdeeds, then run your finger across it to find the corresponding time lapse and actions necessary to grant or receive forgiveness. In fact, there is no guarantee that forgiveness will ever come.

Forgiveness and the ability to forgive vary from person to person. Situations where you and I would say we could never forgive; someone actually going through it may be able to and vice-versa. I have often found that people, who say one thing, feel quite another when they are experiencing a similar situation for themselves.

“You will know that forgiveness has begun when you recall those who hurt you and feel the power to wish them well.”
- Lewis B. Smedes

For those in a position to grant forgiveness, first know that you are not obligated to forgive. Ever. But also know that even if you scream, “I hate you so much right now!” and feel you could never, ever, ever forgive, that you can change your mind over time… if you wish. And if you feel forgiveness is possible, that doesn’t mean it happens in a day, a month, a year or a decade. It could take a lifetime to get to a place where you can honestly and sincerely say, “I forgive you.”

I will say, that if you can find it in you to forgive, you will find it liberating (holding on to hurt inflicted by others may only harm you in the end). However, don’t decide to forgive only to wield it as a weapon to get even. That’s not being honest with yourself or fair to the person(s) seeking forgiveness. It’s okay if you are not ready to forgive. When or if you are ready, it will happen in your time.

“You can’t undo anything you’ve already done, but you can face up to it. You can tell the truth. You can seek forgiveness. And then let God do the rest.”
- Unknown

If you are someone seeking forgiveness, you have the obligation to fully acknowledge your wrongdoing and offer a sincere apology. The apology may or may not be accepted; you may or may not be forgiven. All you can do is offer it and wait. You can’t rush someone or say, “I said I’m sorry, damn, what’s the problem?” Just because you are ready to be forgiven doesn’t mean you will be. You should be prepared for the chance that no matter what you do or don’t do, forgiveness may never come. You have to find your own peace in knowing that you truly are sorry and that you will do all in your power to fix what you can and do whatever is possible to prevent a similar event.

The path to forgiveness is not easy or clear-cut, and there’s no guarantee that you’ll make it; no matter whether you are supplying or seeking. There is no standard set of rules for either party. Some circumstances require great strength to forgive, so those seeking it must respect that. While having a forgiving heart is something I think we should all strive for, it doesn’t mean we’ll succeed. Not being able to forgive doesn’t make you a bad person, it just makes you human.

“If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive”
- Mother Teresa

Categories: Inspiration, Personal

The Reason

February 9, 2010 Ashley Pariseau 4 comments

I’m not a perfect person
There’s many things I wish I didn’t do
But I continue learning
I never meant to do those things to you
And so I have to say before I go
That I just want you to know

I’ve found out a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is you

I’m sorry that I hurt you
It’s something I must live with everyday
And all the pain I put you through
I wish that I could take it all away
And be the one who catches all your tears
Thats why i need you to hear

I’ve found out a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is You

and the reason is You [x3]

I’m not a perfect person
I never meant to do those things to you
And so I have to say before I go
That I just want you to know

I’ve found out a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is you

I’ve found a reason to show
A side of me you didn’t know
A reason for all that I do
And the reason is you

Categories: Inspiration, Personal

Everytime

December 7, 2009 Ashley Pariseau 10 comments

Notice me
Take my hand
Why are we
Strangers when
Our love is strong

Why carry on without me?

Everytime I try to fly
I fall without my wings
I feel so small
I guess I need you baby
And everytime I see you in my dreams
I see your face, it’s haunting me

I guess I need you baby

I make believe
That you are here
It’s the only way
I see clear
What have I done?

You seem to move on easy

And everytime I try to fly
I fall without my wings
I feel so small
I guess I need you baby
And everytime I see you in my dreams
I see your face, you’re haunting me
I guess I need you baby

I may have made it rain
Please forgive me
My weakness caused you pain
And this song is my sorry

At night I pray
That soon your face
Will fade away

And everytime I try to fly
I fall without my wings
I feel so small
I guess I need you baby
And everytime I see you in my dreams
I see your face, you’re haunting me
I guess I need you baby

Categories: Inspiration, Personal

One Thing

November 17, 2009 Ashley Pariseau 1 comment

The one thing that seems to always keep me going, is that whenever I am down about something, someone will come up to me and tell me about their life and problems, and I’ll be reminded that things could be a lot worse. It’s a comforting feeling.

Categories: Inspiration, Personal

Personality Test

November 5, 2009 Ashley Pariseau Leave a comment

I just took the Meyers Briggs Type Indicator personality test and my result came out as type INTJ, which stands for “Introverted Intuitive Thinking Judging.” The test is broken down into sections.

1. Attitude: Introvert (I) or Extrovert (E)

2. Information – How you take in and interpret information: Sensing (S) or Intuition (N)

3. Decisions - how you make them: Thinking (T) or Feeling (F).

4. Structure: Judging (J) or Perceiving (P)

If you take the test, it will give you a series of those letters, and every combination of letters is a certain personality type.

After reading the description of on INTJ’s personality, I have found several statements of the type of be true of myself.

“When it comes to their own areas of expertise — and INTJs can have several — they will be able to tell you almost immediately whether or not they can help you, and if so, how. INTJs know what they know, and perhaps still more importantly, they know what they don’t know.”

“INTJs are usually extremely private people, and can often be naturally impassive as well, which makes them easy to misread and misunderstand.”

“INTJs enjoy developing unique solutions to complex problems.”

“The INTJ often comes off as shy and reserved, and gives the impression of never having an opinion, but this is a misunderstanding. They are often quiet most of the time, that is until they feel their views are being challenged, then they have a mouthful to say.”

“They value intelligence, knowledge, and competence, and typically have high standards in these regards, which they continuously strive to fulfill. To a somewhat lesser extent, they have similar expectations of others.”

“INTJs are natural leaders, although they usually choose to remain in the background until they see a real need to take over the lead.”
Source

The following statements, from here about INTJs I found to be funny, but also especially true.

Dealing With An INTJ

1. Be willing to back up your statements with facts – or at least some pretty sound reasoning.

2. Don’t expect them to respect you or your viewpoints just because you say so. INTJ respect must be earned.

3. Be willing to concede when you are wrong. The average INTJ respects the truth over being “right”. Withdraw your erroneous comment and admit your mistake and they will see you as a very reasonable person. Stick to erroneous comments and they will think you are an irrational idiot and treat everything you say as being questionable.

4. Try not to be repetitive. It annoys them.

5. Do not feed them a line of bull.

6. Expect debate. INTJs like to tear ideas apart and prove their worthiness. They will even argue a point they don’t actually support for the sake of argument.

7. Do not mistake the strength of your conviction with the strength of your argument. INTJs do not need to believe in a position to argue it or argue it well. Therefore, it will take more than fervor to sway them.

8. Do not be surprised at sarcasm.

9. Remember that INTJs believe in workable solutions. They are extremely open-minded to possibilities, but they will quickly discard any idea that is unfeasible. INTJ open-mindedness means that they are willing to have a go at an idea by trying to pull it apart. This horrifies people who expect oohs and ahhs and reverence. The ultimate INTJ insult to an idea is to ignore it, because that means it’s not even interesting enough to deconstruct.

This also means that they will not just accept any viewpoint that is presented to them. The bottom line is “Does it work?” – end discussion.

10. Do not expect INTJs to actually care about how you view them. They already know that they are arrogant bastards with a morbid sense of humor. Telling them the obvious accomplishes nothing.

Take the test and see what type you are.

Categories: Personal, Random

Favorite Chick Flicks

October 26, 2009 Ashley Pariseau 1 comment

Most people who know me know that I am a fan of girly movies. Here is a list of my favorite ones that I’ve seen so far.

Sex and the City: The Movie

Titanic

Thelma & Louise

13 Going On 30

Ghost

The Devil Wears Prada

Dirty Dancing

Legally Blonde

Clueless

Mean Girls

How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days

Sixteen Candles

Readers, add your list!

Categories: Personal, Random

Survey

October 25, 2009 Ashley Pariseau Leave a comment

I haven’t done one of these in a while.

What do you often find yourself thinking about?
Everything. Things going on in my life mostly.

Who is the most important person to you, and why?
I’m going to have to go with myself on this one. I think each individual person should always hold themselves as the most important person to them. Other than that, I’d say the people who choose to stick by me through the good and bad and truly care about me. I can’t really pick just one person, nut I’m sure they already know who they are.

Is there anything you wish you could tell someone but can’t?

Tons

What is your mood most often?
Content

What are your most wanted desires or dreams?
I just want to live my life to the fullest, and I’d like to inspire and help people along the way.

What do you do when you’re extremely angry?
I rant in my head for a while, then I write about it, or listen to angry music.

Do you think you can completely trust anyone?
Yes. Not very many people, but it’s not impossible for someone to be completely trustworthy.

What do you think of love and heartbreak?
It’s hard, but it’s a part of life you have to learn to deal with. It makes  a stronger person emotionally.

Do you look up to any celebrity? If so, why?
I used to but not so much anyone.

Do you think the world is changing for the better or worst?
A little bit of both.

Do you need a boyfriend/girlfriend to be truly happy?
No. You “need” food and shelter, but of course having a boyfriend makes me happy.

If you knew you were to die in a month, what would you do with your time?
Spend it with family as much as possible, quit work, travel some more, go out to eat at nice restaurants all the time, do whatever I want.

Do you think you make the best choices most of the time?
Most of the time, but not always.

Do you really say everything you want to all of the time?
No, I hold some of it in if I don’t want to cause problems, or if I can’t think of a constructive way to put it.

What is the one thing you want most out of life?
Happiness.

If you’re crying, what’s most likely the reason?
I mostly cry out of frustration, not sadness.

Do you think you need to have friends?
I prefer to have friends and people who are supportive of me.

Are you afraid of divorce?
Not really. I will just be careful of who I marry.

What animal do you most relate to and why?
Cats. Fickle, stubborn, sweet and friendly, can be bitchy when provoked, like both company and alone time.

Categories: Personal, Random

Clothes

September 16, 2009 Ashley Pariseau 2 comments

Donating to Goodwill!

Categories: Causes, Personal, Random

New Pets!

September 7, 2009 Ashley Pariseau 1 comment

Last week, we went to a reptile show in Indy and took home two female baby corn snakes. They are pretty awesome, except one of them isn’t eating. The other one has ate 3 or 4 times since we got them and is already growing quite a bit. I have decided to name them Ivy and Ariel.

Ivy.

She is the smaller one that isn’t eating. Several people have told us that this is kind of normal because she might be stressed out, and also some snakes don’t eat before they shed the first time. We are going to try to feed her again in a couple days.

And this is Ariel.

I never thought that I could get into snakes that much, but they are actually pretty interesting and fun to watch and hold. I like them!

Categories: Personal, Pets